God's Gift

As wives, we tend to give our best to our coworkers, friends, and our kids. I often hear women saying, " he's a big boy, he'll be fine" about their husband. I know I'm guilty of this as well. Men are strong, self-assured, and look very self-sufficient.

Right? I would say yes and no. Men are strong and confident and often don't show any weakness in hard situations. This is good because they are to be the head of our homes as well as the provider. They are where the buck stops. If there is a problem, it is expected they will solve it to keep the family safe and secure.

But, in every man, there is a person with feelings and insecurities. That person we feel will be "fine" also needs reassurance that we love, respect, and are by their side.

I was reminded of this at an airport. I saw a couple and noticed the husband smiling, attempting to have a conversation with his wife. This wife curtly blew him off. His smile immediately dropped as he sat back. Now, this flight had been delayed, so I'm sure his wife was not in the mood for a joyful conversation. I couldn't help wondering if that had been her coworker, a friend, or her child if she would have reacted that way. I also wonder how many times I may have acted this way. We get irritated, we're doing something or distracted, not realizing we responding curtly to our husbands.

As I contemplated this situation, I thought what could be done differently. Take a deep breath and relax. After all, you can't stop a flight delay. Smile, turn to him, and look at him when he speaks. Giving our husbands a smile reassures him that you are happy with the life he is providing. Looking at him when he speaks, let's him know you care about what he has to say.

Being the provider and protector of a family is not easy. Even though men look like they are self-sufficient and tough, they need that smile, respect, and love of that special woman God put in their life. They need their wife.

As for that couple, the wife finally turned to look at her husband responding with a smile. Her husband immediately sat forward, smiling ear to ear, enjoying his conversation with his wife.

God, please help us to always take time to smile, listen, and be thankful for the gift You've given us, our husband.